Say Anything’s Max Bemis has announced via Twitter that they have retired “Wow, I Can Get Sexual Too” from live shows.

Gotta sound in. I was a naive kid when I entered “this scene” at 19 and found out that a lot of people I knew of or looked up to repeatedly cheated on their spouses and girlfriends, hooked up with underage girls, etc. It has been heartbreaking and continues to be jarring as someone who I hope is different. It makes me question even the mutual not-coerced of-age interactions I’ve had with women during my youth. We should all question the dynamics of sexuality and our role in this.

That being said, I’ve never and would never cheat on my wife or betray my family and that is also a form of emotional abuse I see perverted by many people in entertainment as well as other obvious creepy shit. Given all of this, I’m going to be retiring the song Wow I Can Get Sexual Too for the foreseeable future. It may speak partially of my flaws but mostly a sarcastic caricature of someone I’ve never been at all and is no longer appropriate during this crisis.

Consent is a no brainer (obviously not to some) but it can even go beyond that into much more finicky places. maybe i kissed a girl who was having a secret emotional crisis i never asked about. maybe somebody i was with was already in a relationship. this is a social disease.. The most chronic dire symptom of which being rape, coercion, and sexual assault. we all need to care more, respect women more, respect ourselves more and GIVE A SHIT.

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